While we would like to think we are giving it our all every day, sometimes it can just feel as if we are going through the motions.
It’s very easy to become discouraged or unhappy when we are feeling unfulfilled at work or in a relationship. This leads to less of an effort and the cycle only worsens.
The Time Management Ninja has outlined the five reasons he sees people not giving 100 percent. These points are a good start when reflecting on exactly what’s holding you back:
- You Are Too Comfortable – We all like to live in our comfort zones. Perhaps, you have become too comfortable. It is only by going beyond our boundaries that we learn, live, and expand our experience.
- You Have a Bad Attitude – A bad attitude can impact your entire world. Don’t underestimate the power of a positive attitude to keep you going and lift your efforts. If your attitude is lacking, find someone who has a positive outlook. The feeling is contagious.
- You Don’t Care – Not caring about your job or work can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. I have encountered many people like this in the corporate world. When they begin a downward slide, they don’t realize that it is because they stopped caring and thus stopped performing. If you do not have passion for what you are doing, then by all means go find something else for which you do.
- You Are Scared of Failure – Kids like to think that their parents, and adults in general are fearless. (When in reality is it the other way around.) When was the last time you failed? Is fear of failure keeping you from trying your best?
- You Aren’t Hungry – What do you want to achieve? What do you want to accomplish? If you don’t have goals, you may not have anything to give 100% of your effort towards. Make sure you have aspirations that stretch your limits.
I also find these additional reasons from The American Genius to also be very relevant especially when it comes to work or your career:
- Personal stressors – If your life is out of control or out of balance personally, it can have a deep impact upon your work. If finances or tight, a new baby is coming, a divorce is pending, a spouse is ill, a child is in trouble, it is difficult to give 100 % to anything – distractions can be horribly destructive to professional momentum.
- Forgetting to visualize success –If you can see the finish line of your career, a project or just the day itself, but you fail to visualize the successful outcome, you lose focus of why you are running the race in the first place.
- You’re burnt out –You’re worn down at work, you’ve taken on too much, you’ve said yes too many people or you’ve set poor short term goals for yourself that would get yourself to that finish line. You may be at an entry level job wondering why you’ve been there for six years and people keep being promoted over you or simply performing better than you have.
- A bad environment – You have a new boss that is a jerk, your clients are all high strung and frustrated, you’re headspun because of layoffs all around you, or everyone in your office is negative which is contagious. You don’t have to be all sunshine and rainbows all the time, but a bad environment can be the cinder block tied to your ankle, pulling you underwater.
There are ways to work past these obstacles. The first thing to decide is if you are in or out. If you decide you are going to stay in the current situation you must BE ALL IN. If that is completely impossible, a plan must be put together that moves you in a more positive direction within 3 months.
Here are some immediate things to do to become an active participant in your life:
- If personal stress is the main issue, simplify everything as much as possible. Learn to say no to people. Stop making extra plans on the weekends and taking on too much. Eliminate negative and draining people from your life, and ask for help from those you can trust. Accept your current situation for what it is and worry less about what others think or have.
- Find a creative outlet. This may be something athletic, joining a book club, or taking up photography. You can even wake up 15 minutes early to go for a walk in the morning. Find something new you enjoy doing and incorporate it into your life a few times a week.
- Set clear goals. Where do you want to be in 6 months? If you want a new role or responsibility at work, discuss with your boss now. Ask them what they would like to see from you over the next 6 months for you to reach your goal. Connect with them halfway through to evaluate your progress. Want to start your own business this year? Spend your next free Sunday breaking down the steps to getting there. Set both short and long term goals, and a clear idea of the savings you would need to make the leap.
- Avoid negative people and work gossipers. This is a tough one. I love gossip just as much as the next person, but nothing can be more detrimental to your career and confidence then these energy drainers. Just smile and walk away, or try to offer an actual solution. You will find the chronic complainer doesn’t really want a solution after all.
What has helped you to BE ALL IN?